If lead your life with response rather than reaction, that’s real power. For example, if someone does something that you don’t like, you can say (or think) “Go fuck yourself.” We all feel that way sometimes. There’s really no problem to feel that, however, what can we do with that? How can we influence the world and respond versus react. How can we respond in a way that builds our dignity, our power, our effectiveness, and our leadership in the world? The feeling of contempt is not the problem. The question is what is your relationship to the feeling? Who is driving the car? And how can you use it to lead more effectively?